Saturday, 10 March 2012

4 . Arranged Marriage

In an arranged marriage, the choice of a husband or wife is made by parents or elders. What do you think of this practise in today’s society? Discuss.

Marriage? Such an interesting topic to be discussed. In this century, we always heard that marriage is a pure relationship between two people in love. However, what is our first impression when it comes to arranged marriage? I believe, most will say, "arranged marriage?What nonsense! Arranged marriage in this millennium era? Such an old school and silly thing". But, do not eagerly make early judgement without thinking about it deeply, it can be relevant and irrelevant too. So, let’s have our chat about pro and cons before jumping to any conclusion.

Based on the statistic that had been made by a non-government organisation, almost 61%of the women in Malaysia faced a common problem which is late marriage. Late marriage had been an issue because many female or male workers are worried on finding a partner in their life as they are not getting much younger. Eventually, it will affects their working performance. So, by choice of a husband or wife by their parents or elders, thus can avoid the women from been getting involved in late marriage whether they live in village or in metropolitan city. Besides,the women do not need to be worry to be ‘andartu’ as the parents will find and arrange the marriage for them. So, in today society, this is very practical because a lot of successful person do not have time to find their life partner based on their busy life.

Besides that, probability of parents making the right choice on choosing a right spouse is usually 0.9. Parents are more experience in this journey of life and they do know us better than ourselves. They are the one who take care of us since we were born, and absolutely they want the best for us. Therefore, there is no doubt that they decide an arranged marriage for us is because they love,care about us. And there is no reason for them to choose wrong or bad person to be our life partner. People might say that the choice by our parents may be the wrong one but of course that is not their intention. So, why not we trust our parents by knowing their candidate first before deciding anything because parent’s choice usually comes with full of blessing.

The cons from this situation is those who are involved in arranged marriage,could not cooperate well with their partner . So, this situation is leading towards divorce and based on the survey that had been made by Syariah Council officers, almost 75% new partners that had been involved in arranged marriage sign in to divorce every 3 months. What a shocking result? This shows that not all arranged marriage is always successful.

Based on the points given it shows that arranged marriage has it's pros and cons and we can evaluate ourselves whether to be involved with it or not. For some remote area such as in orang asli community, arranged marriage is a symbolic to their culture. If you think that arranged marriage is good for you, then practice it. If not, do not risk yourself as marriage is not only about falling in love and blissful events,it is also about how to accept the incomplete of the other half of you.Last but not least, think carefully before involved in arranged marriage.

5 comments:

~WARM~ said...

Assalamualaikum..^^
your essay is nice! We get attracted to read your essay because of it's topic.hehe.yes.you are right.there are pros and cons of arranged marriage.Arranged marriage is good because our parents always know the best for us,and the choice of parents is always the best. Our parents are the best! :) but, we are quiet afraid if our parents arranged a marriage without telling us.just imagine, when you step into your house, suddenly your parents tell you, you have to get married next month with anonymous.w0o0..anyway,marriage is not a game so,we have to think carefully about it. A good marriage is a marriage with parents' permission.insya Allah we will get barakah.. ^_^

bigbrother&kids=) said...

i have one question, IF this essay is supposed to be handed for the muet exemination (if la..haha..) :

can the thesis statement be written without saying the ideas@points of its pros and cons, or the corresponding topic sentences for each paragraphs?will the marks be reduced??? :B

miracleous1_3dr said...

assalamualaikum....
greeting to all of you my fellow friends,i have read through your essay..great job...
just a weird thing when you mentioned that a busy person(well-educated) can't perform well worrying about their marriage...didn't an arranged marriage such a burden to them if they can suite well with their partner?they will be more stress and hence, their performance becoming worst....

zati abby mirul said...

salam.. nice essay..arranged marriage is better than forever alone..:).. maybe some modern people cannot accept it because they want to find someone based on their own criteria or they already had their own choice.

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