Question : Recently the sharp increase of sexual crime involving teenagers has been shocking. Do you agree that teenagers should be blamed as they do not know how to protect themselves?
A 15 years old girl has been raped by her boyfriend and his friends in turn.Before, she told her mother that she wanted to go to her friend’s house for study group but instead she followed her boyfriend. But it turned to be a nightmare for her. This real and tragic story shows that the girl absolutely does not know how to protect herself. Unluckily, same goes to the most of teenagers outside there even we are now heading to the peak of modernization. As there are still teenagers, do you think we should still put the blame on their parents?Think wisely and most of us will admit hardly that the teenagers should be blamed for not knowing how to protect themselves as they don’t want to be controlled by their parents and peer pressure effects,culture shock and lack of practising religious teaching as well.
Adolescence phase can be said as the golden time for everybody. So, their soul tend to do anything exceed the barrier without their parents’ controlled. To be worst,wrong selection of peer can affect their behavior and action. As we know most of the teenager’s times is being spend with their friends instead of family. We cannot blame parents hundred percent on this issue as teenagers themselves spend most the time at school or college and even if their parents are really take care and give their attention to the children; they still have no power to take full controlled of their children from doing something unwanted. Therefore, it is the teenager’s role to learn how to protect themselves from being the victim of sexual crime and take a good effort to control their inquiry.
“Son, when I was your age, life was so different. We just stay in village; we not migrate to the big cities. Life then and life now is like opposite ends of the spectrum.”Today, a lot of teenagers had made decision to migrate to big cities as they think that they can survival in a new atmosphere. Surely, a black cat does not same as the white one. There are very big differing between social life at cities and village. These teenagers maybe would faced a culture shock when get in city life. For example, they would change their appearance due to the culture shock especially girls. From proper dress up; baju kurung into skimpy, tank top and mini skirt add with a pair of stilettos’. What’re pity teenagers? Indirectly from this situations, would give a large chances to teenagers to involve in sexual crime such as being raped and etc. This shows, culture shock had give a bad impact to the teenagers as they could be involved in sexual crime.
When we think about this issue deeply, we should realize that it can be solved only by practicing the real and beautiful religious teaching. But this kind of solving is really hard and take quite longer times as teenagers nowadays has been exposed to the negative side of the world. The teenagers actually have been taught with the religious teaching, but most of them do not understand, feel and practice it very well in their daily life. They do know rule of their religion but they are more tend to involve in hedonism and take their religion for granted. Taking one of the verses from Qoran,,"Lo! Allah changeth not the condition of a folk until they (first) change that which is in their hearts...." Therefore, it is the teenager’s mistakes for not overwhelming themselves with their religious teaching which can prevent them from involving in sexual crime.
In this day and age, the teenagers cannot be expected to lead sheltered, protected lives. They have to go about doing tasks outside the home, such as attending classes; therefore it is important that they learn how to watch out for themselves. While many of us may dismiss sexual crime involve teenagers as an insignificant matter, it would pay for all of us to sit up and take note of the fact that sexual crime does not just happen, it needs to be nurtured from young so that we could learnt how to protected teenagers from involving in sexual crime.